Sexual health is not a goal in itself but a daily resource of life, a positive concept emphasizing the physiological, psychic, and socio-cultural resources, as well as the individual capacities to implement them.
There are no ready-made recipes for being “sexually efficient”, becoming a “sexual athlete”, or reaching ecstasy in all circumstances. They don’t exist. On the other hand, we can learn to build a positive sexuality which helps to develop a fulfilling affective, relational, and sexual life.
Sexual Health Resources
Following is a research paper by Jennifer Rehor concerning women in the kink community.
Archives of Sexual Behavior
“Sensual, Erotic, and Sexual Behaviors of Women from the ‘Kink’ Community“
Volume 44, Issue 4. DOI:10.1007/s10508-015-0524-2
Click here to download as PDF.
General Sexuality Information
• Sexual Health Definition
According to the current working definition (from the World Health Organization), sexual health is: “…a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.” (WHO, 2006a)
The Six Fundamental Principles of Sexual Health
People interested in discovering their own vision of sexual health often wonder where to start the process. The following sexual health principles* can be helpful:
* These Six Sexual Health Principles are based on various books and trainings by Douglas Braun-Harvey.
Female Sexual Anatomy
• Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women by Julia Heiman and Joseph LoPiccolo
• The O Tapes: video about 25 women’s subjective sexual experiences
• How a Nerd Describes Orgasm by Sexplanations with Dr. Lindsay Doe
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender
• The San Diego LGBT Center: Offers events, programs, and other resources for members of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender community
• PFLAG: Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
• Ultimate Guide to Resources for LGBTQ+ Students
• Celebrate Pride All Year with wristbands, clothing, and more
• Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon
• When Someone You Love Is Kinky by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt
• The Kink And Poly Aware Professionals Directory
• CARAS: Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities
• Society of Janus: BDSM educational book list
• Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson
• My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory by Cooper S Beckett
• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
• The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton
• The Polyamory Handbook: A User’s Guide by Peter J. Benson
• The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory: A Hands-on guide to Open Sexual Relationship
• The Polyamorist On The Couch: Q&A With Tamara Pincus On What Therapists Should Know About Big Love; Huffington Post article
San Diego County
• Center for Community Solutions is a San Diego-based nonprofit organization dedicated to ending relationship and sexual violence.
• Community Resource Center‘s mission is to help our neighbors create paths to healthy food, stable homes and safe relationships.
• Women’s Resource Center is dedicated to stopping domestic violence and sexual assault by rebuilding lives together.
The clinicians at Affirming Therapy Center bring a sex-positive perspective and an understanding of how important it is to be able to process all of our feelings without worrying about judgment. We have extensive training in the area of sexual health, which means that we are all very comfortable talking about sexuality and we provide a safe and non-judgmental space for our clients.
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