Adult Baby Diaper Lovers
The Adult Baby Diaper Lover (ABDL) community is a diverse group of people that includes adult babies, diaper lovers, and those who cherish them. ABDL can be sexual, non-sexual, individual, or partnered; it can be a fetish or simply fun.
The ABDL Spectrum
Since individuals in any group vary greatly in their preferences and activities, it is easier to imagine the ABDL community on a spectrum rather than as a single idea. The desire to explore an infantile state and the use of baby items are common elements that accompany the comforts of the adult baby lifestyle.
Some members of the ABDL community don’t diapers. Rather, their baby behaviors include speaking in a baby voice, drinking out of a baby bottle, or the desire to be taken care of by a “mommy” or “daddy.” Many participants use both role-play and baby items to express their ABDL desires and can do so alone, with a partner, or online.
Not everyone who wears a diaper identifies as an adult baby. Diaper lovers include people who wear diapers without a medical reason or enjoy watching others wear diapers, without the adult baby association. Many diaper lovers are especially interested in plush, soft diapers with a thick backsheet. Diaper loving can be sexual or non-sexual. Some diaper lovers enjoy secretly wearing a diaper in public, while others simply find safety or comfort in diapers without the desire to be a baby.
For some ABDL participants, adult baby play is more about dominance and submission rather than baby role play. The Daddy Dominant and little girl or boy (DD/lg or DD/lb) dynamic or the Mommy Dominant and little boy or girl (MD/lb or MD/lg) dynamic are a few examples of how ABDL and BDSM intersect. Some ABDL members prefer the term “littles”, without “boy” or “girl”.
Partnered ABDL activities for asexual people can give them an opportunity to connect with others and to negotiate their needs while still honoring their asexuality.
Misconceptions vs. Reality
There are many common misconceptions when it comes to the ABDL community, the most common of which is the idea that ABDL participants have a sexual interest in real infants or children. ABDL behavior has nothing to do with actual infants and is more closely related to being in an infantile state of mind that brings comfort or relieves stress. Age regression can be used as a coping strategy for negative mood states as the childlike behaviors generate positive sensations that counteract the negativity.
Another misconception is that ABDL community members are mentally ill. There is no scientific or medical evidence to support this idea.
What is the Take-Away?
ABDL and the ABDL community is another wonderful aspect of the human experience, something to be explored and indulged in, if that is your desire.
Online forums can be a safe space for ABDL members to connect with each other and to engage with a virtual community. They provide ABDL-related resources, events, and chats.
Whether you have an interest in or experience with ABDL and want to better understand this part of yourself or if you want to work on an area of personal growth unrelated to your ABDL lifestyle or desires and are looking for a therapist who is accepting and understanding, we are here to help. Please contact us now to get started!
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