Adult Baby Diaper Lover (ABDL) Support

Compassionate, Affirming Care for ABDL Individuals and Partners

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At Affirming Therapy Center, we know that identity, intimacy, and comfort can take many forms. The Adult Baby Diaper-Lover (ABDL) community represents a wide and diverse range of experiences. For some, ABDL is a deeply rooted identity or lifestyle; for others, it’s a source of emotional ease, playfulness, or grounded connection. Our goal is to offer a safe, understanding space where you can explore this part of yourself without judgment and with genuine support.

Understanding the ABDL Spectrum

ABDL can look very different from person to person. It may be sexual, non-sexual, relational, individual, emotionally grounding, or simply a way of decompressing. Because of this, we view ABDL as a spectrum of experiences rather than a single definition.

Adult Babies

Some individuals identify as adult babies, engaging in behaviors or environments associated with infancy or early childhood. This may involve using a softer voice, drinking from bottles, enjoying soothing baby items, or forming nurturing dynamics with a partner. These activities may be explored alone, with a partner, or through online communities. At its core, adult-baby expression often centers on emotional safety, comfort, and the freedom to temporarily let go.

Diaper Lovers

Diaper lovers (DLs) enjoy wearing diapers—or enjoy others wearing them—without necessarily connecting this interest to childlike behaviors. For some, diapers offer warmth, softness, or a sense of protection. For others, they provide emotional grounding or comfort. Diaper use may be a sexual fetish or non-sexual activity and can be an occasional practice or part of everyday life.

Adult-Baby Diaper Lovers

Some people experience a blend of both identities, integrating diapers into adult baby role-play or nurturing-care dynamics. For these individuals, diapers may deepen their sense of intimacy, emotional soothing, or little headspace.

Partnered Dynamics

For certain people, ABDL intersects with relational structures that involve care, support, and consensual role-play. This can include caregiver/little dynamics, nurturing relationships, or connections that overlap with BDSM or structured caregiving. These dynamics prioritize consent, emotional attunement, mutual respect, and clear communication.

Asexual & Non-Sexual Experiences

Many ABDL individuals do not involve sexual activity in their experience at all. For people who are asexual, demisexual, or simply uninterested in sexual expression within ABDL, these practices can still serve as vital sources of connection, self-soothing, and emotional fulfillment.

Clearing Up Misconceptions

“Is ABDL connected to attraction to children?”

No. ABDL involves consenting adults only and is linked to emotional comfort, identity expression, and fantasy —not any attraction to minors.

“Is ABDL a mental illness?”

No. There is no scientific or medical evidence supporting that idea. For many, ABDL serves as a healthy coping mechanism, a way to reduce stress or anxiety, or a pathway to reconnect with aspects of self that bring comfort and safety.

A Message of Acceptance & Support

At Affirming Therapy Center, we believe that your identity and desires deserve to be met with compassion, respect, and affirmation. We’re committed to creating a safe, sex-positive, nonjudgmental space where you can explore your feelings, behaviors, identity, and relationships — whether you’re curious, experimenting, looking for support, or simply seeking understanding.

If you are part of the ABDL community — or are beginning to question, explore, or understand this aspect of yourself — you are welcome here. Our clinicians are trained in gender, sexual, and relationship diversity and offer support tailored to your unique experience, in a way that honors your boundaries and empowers your journey.

Whether you want to talk about identity, relationships, intimacy, self-acceptance, or personal growth — or simply find a safe space to be honest — we are here for you.

Reach out today and begin the process of understanding, acceptance, and self-compassion with a therapist who affirms all parts of you.

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ABDL Resources

Are you looking for ABDL resources? We have provided a list to help you find what you need. Just click Read More

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Website Resources
Big Kid Comfort offers clothing to let you express your identity. They also provide a list of vetted mental health care providers who have extensive experience and expertise working with littles.
Living Little in BDSM is hosted by The BDSM Training Academy.
A Guide to Age Play is sponsored by Lascivity – Literate Kink.
Age Play: A Consensual Way to Explore Sexual Dynamics provides general information on age play.
Age Play 101 reviews basic age play.
A is for Age Play presents a discussion on age play by ABCs of Kink.

Retail and Shopping Resources
The Little Bondage Shop on Etsy sells queer friendly and ageplay workbooks and activities.
Lil Kink Boutique is an 18+ specialty shop offering unique & hard-to-find ABDL clothing and accessories to promote pride and awareness for ageplayers and others of all shapes and sizes.
Rearz is a Canadian owned and operated company specializing in premium ageplay clothing, diapers, and accessories.
Tykables sells ABDL clothing.
ABUniverse is super passionate about diapers!
ABDL Company sells ABDL diapers, adult pacifiers, adult onesies and all sorts of other toys for ageplayers of all variety.
DDlg Playground is passionate about cute and kawaii fashion, cosplay, lingerie, novelties, and more.
Age Play Ageplay is an Etsy store specializing in age play merchandise.
Little For Big sells age play outfits and other goods.
My Inner Baby specializes in the largest variety of adult diapers, bodysuits, and age regression products.
Onesies Down Under, from lazy days to cozy nights, bring you the cutest, most comfortable onesies & apparel since 2015.

San Diego and SoCal Ageplay Groups and Events
CAPE San Diego (Caregiver and Ageplayer Events) is an organization that promotes local CG/l events, acts as a gathering point for CG/l people to meet and connect, and host their own larger events roughly 4 times a year.
San Diego Bigs & Littles is an all-inclusive group of 18+ persons who identify on, are supportive of, or are respectfully curious about the Bigs & Littles spectrum in or near San Diego.
Little Scouts: San Diego Troop is the San Diego chapter of Little Scouts, Troop 469, an all-inclusiveage play group set up like a traditional scout troop, complete with outings and earning badges!
Honey’s Ageplay Munch is a safe space for those in the local North County/San Diego area who identify with or are curious about the Ageplay community.
Social of Age Players (SOAP) – Los Angeles is a warm community of friends who are into age play (AB, Littles, Middles, Bigs, Regressives, DD/lg), Pet Play, BDSM, Dollification, many of its cross overs, or even those just interested in socializing with a frivolous group of people.
Sock Monkey Social: Shall We Play a Game? is a social event hosted on the 3rd Sunday of every month.

Our ABDL Therapists

As with everything in life, there are ups and downs, and sometimes you need someone to talk to. Maybe your Mommy or Daddy isn’t paying enough attention to you. Maybe you have inner conflict, questions about how and where you fit in our kooky world. Perhaps you have wounds that aren’t healing or stories you need to tell. Or perhaps you just want to talk to someone about life and love, talk to someone who understands the challenges you sometimes face.

Our therapists are trained to listen, understand, and help guide you on your unique journey. At Affirming Therapy Center, we are honored to support you as you grow, explore, and reconnect with all the parts of yourself.